No matter how long ago it happened, every guy on the planet can tell you the vivid details about how they lost their virginity. Of all the firsts you'll experience in your lifetime, your first time doing the deed truly a marks a clear before and after.
One minute, you're a guy who's imagined what it would be like to penetrate a woman by way of lots of porn and sexual daydreams. And then next minute or hopefully more , you've got the experience under your belt and you're ready to start uhh, honing your craft so to speak.
But let's not get ahead of ourselves here. Because losing your virginity is a pretty big deal, we want to make sure you're going in there as prepared as humanly possible. That's the great thing about cashing in your V-card in the digital age — you've got a world of information at your fingertips to make sure that you nail it see what I did there? Ready to delve into the dos and don'ts? From what it'll feel like on your first entry to when to do it, what to bring and what happens after it's all over and done, here's everything you need to know about losing your virginity.
Here's a fun fact about virginity that you probably didn't know: The fact that the term "virginity" is up for interpretation has definitely caused some confusion over the years — especially where oral sex is concerned. It has also managed to work its way into a few iconic films if you're a male virgin who has never seen the movie American Pie, there's no time like the present.
But as far as the majority of society defines it, in order to for a man to lose his virginity as a heterosexual guy, he would need to penetrate a vagina with his dick.
The Average Age To Lose Your Virginity Before we start taking a look at v-card statistics around the world, let's get one thing straight: Having sex for the first time certainly differs from country to country mostly as a result of cultural or religious value systems more so than simple geography.
However, with a few preventative measures which we'll get to , you'll be able to avoid most of the factors that would potentially cause pain. What will your body feel like afterward?
Likely, pretty awesome, since there are plenty of post-coitus endorphins that going to be running through your body. But as far as physical changes go, your penis will be the same as it was before you had sex. But according to Hodder, you'll probably stand a little taller, psychologically speaking. How To Lose Your Virginity Before we get to the action, there are a few questions you should ask yourself beforehand to know if you're ready. A few Hodder recommends kicking things off with: Am I trying to prove something to myself or someone else?
Is this the person I want to remember for the rest of my life as having given my virginity to? Even if you've already been through "Health " in high school, Hodder also says to make sure you're protecting yourself against sexually transmitted infections , aka STIs — especially if your partner isn't a virgin. Fortunately, condoms are super easy to get; you can buy them almost anywhere, and if you're hard up for cash, health care offices like Planned Parenthood often provide condoms free of charge with no questions asked.
Put a drop in the condom before you slip it on, and if things start to get dry while you're doing the deed, don't be shy about using more to help keep things moving smoothly. How well your first time goes really depends on whether or not you and your partner are on the same page as far as your expectations — so make sure you have a conversation about it beforehand and preferably not right before you're about to do it, when nerves are high.
Instead of trying to finagle both your bodies into difficult positions, sexologist Dr. Megan Stubbs recommends starting with the basics. The Best Positions For First-Time Sex "In this position, the guy is able to control the depth and the thrusting, finding a pace and speed that works for them. If he has a partner who is willing to be on top, this can be a more passive position and allow them to let someone else take control.
Women Losing Their Virginity According to a study done by the Kinsey Institute, the difference between the average age that men and women lose their virginity in the U. As with male virginity, what technically constitutes the loss of a woman's virginity has often been misconstrued — from using tampons to dildos and even getting fingered. Self-stimulating with a dildo or any other object while masturbating is a common and healthy way to learn about our own sexual desires and is absolutely not the same experience as engaging in sexual intercourse with another person.
You may have heard the term "popping her cherry" thrown around in reference to a woman's first time, which refers to a woman's hymen. What Real Guys Say "The first time my penis penetrated a vagina, it felt unlike anything I had ever felt before in my entire life—to an incomparable degree," says Ray, I can't verbally describe exactly what it felt like. I'd say warm and wet, but that doesn't even come close to doing it justice. It felt amazing in a unique way that I immediately knew I could never properly replicate in any artificial way.
And I suppose that's the way it should be. The feeling of my penis inside of a woman was, is, and always will be the pinnacle of physical stimulation for me. My first week there I became freshman class president and had to make some stupid little speech at the University. When it was over some senior girl who was watching came up to me and asked me what I was doing that afternoon. I said 'nothing,' and she said, 'Okay come hangout in my room with me. We get to her room and I'm just sitting on her bed with her watching TV.
She gets up and walks into her bathroom and comes out completely naked. Gets on top of me and says, 'What do you want to do? She then pretty much ripped my clothes off and held me down until she got off, thanked me, and then literally never talked to me again. It was awkward because she pretty much used me like a dildo. It went on for about 10 minutes and I didn't even finish. Do you have a crazy story about losing yours?
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