Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. Unless I am the only one who has hunted them down for purely scientific research purposes? If only all sexual minorities were admired this much! Sometimes it's because they think they'd get more romantic traction if they were built bigger, or worry that their partner won't think they're "big enough.
So if you take average to mean "norm," a 5 incher is the most "normal" type of penis to have. Science knows, for example, that if someone was hung like a horse, he'd risk killing his human partners. Science knows the human penis evolved exactly right to be fully effective, capable of having numerous orgasms every day, able to shoot over a billion sperm a month.
If bigger penises were an advantage anywhere outside the human imagination, we'd be super-schlonged as a species. I don't want to mess up your divine fantasies.
But when it comes actual sexual functionality, smaller is better. Their penis was designed to be easily insertable into the largest number of adults. It fits comfortably into the adult vagina and into the anus too. While vaginal tissue expands during intercourse, to allow for full penetration, over 7 inches can be longer than the vaginal canal itself, and bump the uber-sensitive cervix during sex, a howlingly painful experience for women.
Women with anxieties or sex-negativity may come to fear being penetrated altogether and stop their sex lives. A more efficient i. After all, the most pleasurable, orgasm-inducing part of the vagina are the first inches into the canal. The clit and the surrounding tissues leading to and then inside the vaginal canal have the highest concentration of nerve endings and pleasure-receptors.
That is why oral sex and digital stimulation can make a woman cum more successfully than a penis can. While people may dream of packing 8 or 9" of thick meat, in reality, finding people who can accept that size is a challenge unless your partners have already worked up the skill to take you in comfortably, were born with equally capacious vaginas, or actually enjoy a little pain with their penetration.
I've had three clients over the years whose sex lives with their wives ground to a halt because the women complained of pain or discomfort.
The same applies to anal sex. Smaller fits better, moves better and is less likely to cause pain during penetration. You likely won't be able to deep-throat him unless you have the talents of a sword-swallower and worked on relaxing your throat muscles. Even then, your teeth may scrape the skin of his penis and leave abrasions. Your jaw may start hurting a few minutes in. So again, a smaller penis wins the category for best biological design for oral sex too.
It may sound hot in fantasy but in reality, men whose genitals aren't giving them the joy they should have and are being objectified by culture at large feel demeaned. It triggers shame and confusion over whether people love them as human beings or mainly want to use them as sex toys. More than a few of them were either the object of teasing or jokes in their youth, and some of them were molested by adults, often older girls or women, who exploited their naivete to get to their meat. All of these things create stress, shame and emotional conflicts.
Jumbo-size organs can lead to jumbo-size problems. Sometimes, their penises mess up their minds in ways that normal people can barely understand. It's different for men who are unusually large. Some of them worry that people don't really want them for their qualities as people but because they are intrigued by their penis. If you have a normal build, be grateful. Learn to make the most of it by natural means -- exercise, good health habits, cutting down on booze, promoting blood flow, and watching your weight.
Focus on taking good care of the body you have and get the maximum performance out of your normal build. This post was published on the now-closed HuffPost Contributor platform.
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