It's better than not having sex at all, right? Most of the time, I had trouble getting leverage, and while oral sex on men [who have penises] is fairly straightforward in a car, it's much more difficult to get in a position when attempting oral sex on a woman [who has a vagina]. The backseat if you have one big enough is better for leverage, but the person on the bottom always seems to end up getting their head continuously bumped into a hard plastic arm rest Remove only the clothes you have to, and try to keep them all in the same place after you take them off; nothing kills a post-sex mood like digging around under a car seat for your underwear.
I hooked up with a guy on Halloween night, and he was in full-face costume makeup to look like one of the War Boys from Mad Max. Also pretty sure a cop saw us. It's all about communication and relaxation. Nighttime makes it so much easier because you have more places without people. We've done it in multiple parks, a little turn-around spot off a road, a friend's driveway in the country — it's a dirt driveway on a hill , and a few other places. We also had sex outside the car on a hiking trail one time, which was fun: Choose the time carefully, and use the nighttime to your advantage.
We were in an empty parking lot and all of a sudden, we saw flashing lights. A cop caught us. He told us to get out; I thought he meant get out of the car.
So I left the car in a truly disheveled state and was judged by a cop. I was 17 and living at home — we didn't have anywhere else to go! Accept the fact that it probably won't be as good as a bed — but it'll be fun! Find what's comfortable and stick with that. I was driving him home after hitting it off at a mutual friend's birthday party, but first had to drop off a different friend.
We didn't make it out of her parking lot before some clothes came off. It was fun for a bit, but he was tipsy and rather uncoordinated, so after a few failed positioning attempts, I called it off. I didn't get a chance to put my shirt back on, so I ended up chauffeuring him home shirtless. Don't have to awkwardly drive somewhere afterward. I cannot tell you how many of my friends have been caught in parking lots and places that are much too public.
If you're into the voyeuristic qualities of car sex, then find a place that has the illusion of a public space while still remaining very private. Trust me, you do NOT want a cop tapping on your window with his lil flashlight while you two throw your clothes on backward and pretend that you were just 'talking'.
Make sure you choose a secluded place to park, where people and cops won't be walking by. Unsurprisingly, there wasn't an opportunity for sex all weekend, so by the time we were driving back to the city we were both pretty ready.
We pulled into a national park and found a quiet road where we could, erm, take care of business uninterrupted. The sex itself isn't all that enjoyable, to be honest, especially since you don't get adequate post-coital snuggle time.
But the excitement and the giddiness afterward makes car sex worth it once in a while. The car itself is key. In a bigger car like a minivan you can put down the back seats to make a totally flat area behind the first row.