You missed my eye! He had, in fact, wanted to come on my face. Advertisement Advertisement The rise of popularity in facials is often attributed to porn. But then, any change in human sexual behaviour that came around the same time as the internet is automatically attributed to porn.
Broadly speaking, the moment when fellatio became a central feature of sex was the film Deep Throat, a film which features a woman who had a clitoris in the back of her throat, therefore derives sexual pleasure from giving oral sex. You can kind of see why — semen was suddenly dangerous, something to be afraid of, and with HIV a very different diagnosis back then, people were scared.
So if ejaculating over someone rather than inside them could keep you safe, it seemed like a great idea. This created some issues in terms of porn production, though.
The popularity of this sex act has left me asking the same question I was musing on ten years ago, the first time a man came over my face. Experts seem to share a consensus that part of the appeal of a facial is the humiliation. What they disagree about is whether that humiliation is a problem.
Dr Ruth Westheimer describes facials as humiliating in Sex for Dummies, and urges people not to consider them a normal part of intercourse. Explaining to teens that "facials" are not the norm is as important as telling them how babies are born.
Ruth Westheimer AskDrRuth August 11, Writer Dan Savage, however, takes a different stance, saying that the humiliation aspect of a facial is entirely real, but not a problem, writing: That kind of sentiment does women a disservice. Of course there are women who will be aroused by it, who will find it a raw and arousing experience.
I like being the center of attention. Enough to make me properly sick. Katia, 27 told Metro. And then I have to clean up. While, once again, I am not in the business of shaming other women for what they get off on, it does seem strange that such a central focus of porn films is an action which has literally no physical pleasure for women. How do facials make you feel? Are men being hoodwinked into thinking that women really get pleasure from these things?
The fact that the adult film industry has managed to tap into our sexuality and mold it around what is safest and fits best with production values is both terrifying and enormously impressive.