And I hate to break it to you — this might come as a news flash — but bloggers have to get clever with headlines and leads to get their stuff read. When I worked for a daily newspaper, I used to write my leads each morning in the shower, if you can believe it. How do we get back on track?! How do we start enjoying sex again and make it a priority?!
How do have more fun sexually?! Sometimes the desire has waned simply because schedules got busy and full and wee little children or demanding careers or annoying family members are sucking the life right out of you.
Did I just say all that out loud? Instead of thinking you have to instantly rejuvenate things in the bedroom, why not begin by increasing the ways you touch outside the bedroom? Is it just me or is fascinating to you how two people whose lives are so intertwined and who even occasionally see each other naked or get naked together can rarely or never touch each other when clothed?
When a couple becomes increasingly comfortable with giving and receiving affection while clothed, they begin to intuitively understand the significance of such touch. Sure, this may seem awkward at first if you are not used to touching each other, but I really think if you can push through that awkwardness, there are great rewards on the other side. Maybe buy some massage oil and give your husband a nice long massage… and ask for one from him.
What about a bit more time spent on foreplay… Or maybe a new position or new way of touching sexually… Ask him what feels good, and show him what feels good for you. The point is that even a little change up in the bedroom can enlighten you to new depths of oneness. If you and your husband both think there is room for improvement, then get to improving baby. Make it a priority. Stop over-booking your calendar. Push the unfolded laundry off the bed and have some fun re-connecting sexually.
At some point, we all have to draw a line in the sand and decide if the benefits of walking in the direction of better sex are greater than the detriments of staying stuck in mediocrity. Any other ideas on improving a boring sex life? Please, please, please… comment and share this post so that we can be Christians who are all about encouraging one another.
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