Who do you think masturbates more — men or women? And I was positive I was going to get slapped that night. They stared back in disbelief and laughed nervously. Why are you even asking us that? I apologized and walked away back to my friend. I figured I must be doing something wrong. So I tried again with another group, and then another. I kept getting the same negative reactions.
After downing a drink or two , I decided to try again with another group. They initially gave me the same attitude, but this time the liquid courage gave me a comeback.
They even began debating each other and trying to argue their viewpoints playfully to me. After a couple of minutes, we were all introducing ourselves and hitting it off like old friends. This manifests in us as sexual shame.
In the above story, I finally embraced my sexuality and made the topic of sex out to be fun and no big deal. Because of that, the women felt more comfortable and confident about embracing their own sexuality. Deep down though, women want and desire sex with the right person, just like men. Sexual intimacy is at the core of our psychological needs. But to consider having sex with you, a woman has to think about sex — especially with you. You have to take a chance and lead into these sexual subjects.
That will come off as intense and discourage a woman from opening up. Instead, start with lighter questions. Sometimes, you will be met with hesitation and surprise when asking a woman a more intimate question. Instead, you want her to feel this is something natural, normal, and FUN to talk about. You do that by responding with confidence, positivity , and even playfulness.
Mine was horrible…I remember being so nervous that when I first went in to kiss her, I shoulder checked her instead. A couple of questions is often all you need to turn things from friendly to romantic. You need to bring your conversations toward more intimate topics as an interaction progresses.
Sign up below to get immediate access to the First Date Field Manual. Haha but seriously, great read Nick. Nick Notas on April 12, Thanks Peter! Nick Notas on April 12, Sounds good David, let me know how it goes. Reply Vincent on April 10, Hi Nick! First of all sorry if my English is a bit wobbly, it is not my mother tongue. I have been following your articles for a while now, I really like what you do.
But I have always wondered: Also, why would it look try hard to be social? Think about charismatic men — they talk to many people and many people want to talk to them. If anything, it will look the opposite. You will seem like a social, outgoing guy who enjoys meeting people. This consequently made me clam up about most of sexual innuendo when ever addressing girls. Along this line it also made me very sad to see how women were always so up tight about it consequence of social impositions , specially even when i tried to ease them up around me but it seemed to never work so i pretty much cut out any kind of sex talk with girls.