But today I want to get a little more specific — I want to write about sexual choking. To start off, choking during sex is not for everybody.
However, it is a popular thing. The problem is, not a lot of people know that their partner may be into it, and they may not know how to properly implement it during sex. I get this question all the time from men: Consider this Choking Interested in giving a woman a super-intense orgasm without choking her?
Ultimately, it comes down to the sensation, which should be a given. But this kind of sensation is so much different that indulging in your favorite dessert or even rocking, regular sex. Think about your favorite roller coaster. But compare that to a slap on the butt or pulling her hair.
It would be almost impossible for her to focus on anything else than that immediate sensation she just experienced at your hand.
Pulling hair or giving a light slap are great assets to use during sex, but both are quick sensations that come to an end relatively quickly. You heighten her senses to sex by putting her in a honed sense of focus to all other things that are happening to her. This is honed because of the sense of danger that the choking is bringing. For a woman being choked, it brings a sense of vulnerability.
This, of course, is just a level of roleplay that her brain may travel to. For many, laying their cards out on the table before actually engaging in sex is unheard of, which is fair.
Some girls grab the back of their hair or neck. Imagine your butt in a chair right now. You could have been sitting for five hours or five minutes. Another good example is the ringing sound that you can tone out until you begin to think about it. That sexual presence allows for both people to feel more and to achieve more.
As soon as you grab hold of her throat, her brain is going to kick in more than it already was. Her focus is going to shift to the hand you have around her throat. This is something I ought to pay attention to. So take advantage of that and play into it. On the sides of her neck and yours are the carotid arteries. If you watch UFC or anything similar, a lot of chokes that are applied by the combatants are blood chokes.
Instead, the flow of blood is being stopped. Of course, if you do this for long, she can lose consciousness. This is not the goal at all. Maybe a couple seconds, then release. The other option you could try with your partner is actually the safer option of the two. It does have some impact, though. Let me show you what I mean. Will She Have Bruises Afterward? The cluster of muscles in the back of the neck is one of the strongest groupings of muscles in the body.
You could grab the back of her neck and squeeze while also putting your other hand around her throat. Everybody loves potential danger, just not real danger. The most blatant way to make sure that things are going well is to make sure that fullness in her face that we talked about earlier is at a healthy level.
Her color should be flush, but not too much. You should be able to fully see the whites of her eyes as well. Ask her how the pressure feels and gauge her willingness to continue. Let me tell you a quick story. I was doing right by playing it safe, always wanting to aim for less than more. These are things I should have been asking about either during sex or after. Open up this line of communication and find out how much pressure she wants on her neck.
You have no idea what her levels of pain are and you may not have an idea of her levels of comfort. Feeling safe while also feeling a bit of danger is a fine line in and of itself. Keep an open line and nothing can go wrong. Another thing to note is that the act of choking during sex is but a small piece of a larger puzzle.
Alright, maybe a good sized piece, but a piece nonetheless. Not training for deep sea diving. So remember that concept of being present. To put such a degree of concern to it is a surefire way to overthink it.
So if a woman does ask you to choke her during sex, now you know why and how.