No matter what society says, more youths in India are coming out in support of live-in relationships Pride and prejudice: No matter what society says, more youths in India are coming out in support of live-in relationships With the judiciary throwing its weight in favour of couples in live-in relationships, we can only wait and watch how things change. TNN May 21, , As if the love the duo shared permeated through their bodies and filled the space. These young professionals call it their home because this is where they cook their meal, share a bed and resolve their fights.
An old matriarch in her fifties, Rebati cut all her ties with her youngest daughter when she found that Pallavi is living together with her boyfriend. In fact, Mukul and Pallavi along with hundreds like them, belong to the 80 per cent of Indians who supports live-in reationships as a way of life. In fact, the Supreme Court recently passed a verdict reiterating that adult men and women have the right to live together or be in live-in relationship without marriage.
But can it change the mindset of the Indian society that constantly judges unmarried couples that live together? How a society perceives an issue is influenced by what we, as a population, believe in. To understand the gravity of the issue, Chhibber cites the example of abolition of slavery in America. However, it is not the societal prejudice that unmarried couples worry about most. More than cultural or societal challenges, couples suffer from self-created stress.
The road ahead But despite the hurdles they faced, couples are hopeful that prejudices against people who are in a live-in relationship will change with time. For instance, Amit and Shreya names changed , who have been living together since last two years in Pune, have made up their mind to never tie the knot and are eagerly waiting for the society to accept them the way they are.
They fall under the determined 26 per cent of the respondents of the Inshorts survey who said they would choose live-in relationships over marriage. In India, we believe the concept of marriage is patriarchal and it encourages practices like dowry. If living under the safe room without being married gives us the flexibility to lead a life that allows gender equality and mutual respect, then why not embrace this lifestyle instead of marriage? I know he would never understand that it is more about compatibility than lust.
Suppose, I marry a person and find that we are not compatible, what should I do? Only, the battle is not between a beautiful maiden and her knight in shining armour. Now with the judiciary throwing its weight in favour of the later, we can only wait and watch how things change.
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