By Anjula Mutanda, author of How to do Relationships Intimacy is a natural and integral part of a loving relationship, and helps you to reinforce your physical and emotional bond with your partner. But as times goes by, maintaining closeness and a healthy sex life can be very difficult.
Stress at work, illness, differing sex drives, becoming new parents, a lack of privacy in the home can all get in the way. Intimacy and how it is expressed is personal and unique to every couple and the key is to work out what works best for you both in your relationship. When I think about my sex life, I feel Worried that my friends and everyone else has more and better sex than me d. I have a satisfying sex life that works for me and my partner Q2. For me, sex is really Something I try to get out of whenever possible b.
Satisfaction and pleasure e. Intimacy and connection to my partner Q3. When I think about ways of boosting the intimacy in our relationship We enjoy coming up with new things to try Q4.
When it comes to sex, my partner Gets annoyed and has sex reluctantly c. Is too busy and there are too many pressures on our time to make it a priority d. Is usually happy to have sex e. Makes time for us to be intimate Q5. When we have sex, I feel Bored and disconnected from my partner b. Under pressure to perform and tend to just go through the motions d.
Emotionally connected to my partner and we have fun Q6. The biggest obstacle to our sex life is We have hardly any privacy in our home d. We usually make an effort and create the space to be together Q7. When it comes to broaching the subject of sex in our relationship, I Change the subject and clam up b.
Get irritated that my partner is bothering me with this topic again! Want to work things out, but we just end up arguing d. Feel that we try to make it a priority to talk about how we could improve things, but get distracted by other worries e.
Feel we talk a lot and it keeps us close and connected Q8. When it comes to expressing other ways of being close and intimate with each other, my partner and I Tell each other that we love each other d.
Try to get into the habit of having regular hugs e. Tend to hold hands, talk, have a laugh and cuddle often.