Are the two of you fighting over insignificant things? Has she been less emotionally and sexually available recently? All of these problems stem back to the same issue… Your sex life has gone stale.
While men are opened by sexual access and devotion from their partners, women are opened by emotional connection and actions indicating affection. This means that a surprising, romantic gesture like bringing home flowers after work or organizing a beautiful dinner for her makes her feel just as loved and feminine as much as a surprise gesture of sexual access like hopping into the shower with you unexpectedly would make you feel loved and masculine.
Here are the three ways to more fully open your woman sexually and emotionally. Your partner will open sexually once you have opened her emotionally. One of the best ways to do this is to be lavish with your praise. Do you like a certain body part, character trait, or feature of your partner? And then let her know again. Some men feel a loss of power when they compliment their partners too much.
This is your inner child speaking and does not need to be acknowledged. If you admire something about her, let it be known. If she did something that you appreciated, mention it with transparency. If it really affected you, share it with her the next time you think about it. There is a bonus side effect in cultivating this habit of expressing your appreciation — with the feminine, the more you praise something, the more you will see of it.
Do you love how radiant she looks when she wears a certain shirt? Let it be known and you will miraculously start seeing it more often. Tell her how often you fantasize about it or how sexy she looks in it and the position will suddenly make its way back into the rotation. Do you love how she plays with your hair in a tender way? Let her know, and the millions of nerve endings on your scalp will thank you.
Send a text this very instant if you have to. Create a Safe Space She needs you to be able to handle everything that she wants to tell you emotionally, and show you sexually. People do their deepest healing in their intimate relationships.
She wants to be able to share her darker side with you past emotional trauma, issues, secret fantasies without fear that she will be judged. By creating a safe, judgment-free space whenever you are together, your woman will slowly start to open up to you and trust you more. Women or the feminine associated partner connect primarily through conversation. Ask her about her day, and really listen.
Listen without trying to solve what you perceive to be her problems. Or would you prefer if I just listened to you? Like the boulder that is unaffected by the tornado, it is your job to be witness to her emotions, without being affected by them.
And in the bedroom, a lot of your sexual confidence and her trust in you stems from knowing that you will be able to handle whatever she throws at you. If she screams, scratches your back, or cries out, she wants to know in her core that you will be able to handle it. She needs to be sure that you will stay with her and continue to be the rock that will hold her through whatever her feminine tornado throws your way.
I only think more of you for having the courage to cry right now. Women are generally much better communicators than their male counterparts. One major difference in how the genders communicate is in the use of subtext. When men say something, they usually mean what they said, and only what they said. Women, on the other hand, more often mean what they mean and less what they say. The nature of the feminine is to put up small barriers of energetic resistance to the masculine to make sure that the masculine loves her enough to penetrate through those barriers.
Listen to what she is saying on the surface, but be more aware of what her words mean. For instance, I polled a selection of my male friends when deciding on a title for this article. Which topic are you writing about? Your personal integrity and congruence affect your sex life. The extent to which your partner trusts you affects your sex life.