The whole of south-east Asia is remarkable for its highly visible populations of transsexual women. These are not at all the same as you may be used to thinking of, if you are a Westerner. See my discussions on Ray Blanchard for more details. Pattaya Ladyboys Ladyboys in Thailand and across Asia are not like that at all.
They are Well known porn star Amy spotted in Walking Street. They are extremely feminine in appearance and manners. From their early teens they use female hormones, often birth control pills which are freely available without prescription. These can turn them into staggeringly beautiful women. And the fact is that many men are powerfully attracted to them.
Ladyboy Phenomenon in Pattaya. The phenomenon of highly feminine, sexually attractive transsexual women has become increasingly well known over the last two decades, mainly through the internet.
The destination of choice for men who desire to investigate further their attraction to transwomen, has become Thailand. Pattaya, along with Phuket and Bangkok, are the favourites. Thailand has a very well developed tourism sector, with many hotels and short-term apartments at very reasonable prices. Pattaya is easily and cheaply accessible from the West by air and does not require prior visa approval for most Westerners — you get a month automatically on entry.
As well as this it is relatively inexpensive, fairly relaxed, warm, sunny, many people can speak English and there is excellent infrastructure and communications. Together, these make it popular with all types of tourists as well as more hard-core travellers. Thailand is an ideal destination.
Ladyboy at the bus station Thailand is therefore an ideal destination for the ladyboy-attracted man who wants to find out more. Action in Pattaya is constant all year round, although in the low season, Western summer, things can be a little quiet and it will be rather hotter and wetter than from November to March. Ordinary Thai girls, even sex workers, are nowhere near that forward, or, frankly, that gorgeous. Depending on pronunciation and context, this may be offensive.
You will see ladyboys serving in restaurants, in shops, working in hairdressing salons — I think every salon in Asia is majority LB — as well as in banks, travel agencies and such-like. Besides this, there are well-known, glamorous ladyboy cabarets. Tiffany and Alcazar are the two biggest, both with large theatres, but there are many other, smaller and more intimate venues.
However that leaves plenty of choice. There are estimated, at the last figures I saw, to be as many as transsexual sex workers in Pattaya, of a total of 10, or so including natural girls and gay boys.
Generally, contracting with bar girls is safest because they work under a person called a mamasan. This is usually an older woman or ladyboy whose job it is to manage the younger girls. The mamasan will make sure the girls behave when they are with clients you have to behave too.
How much depends on the bar. If so, that will just put business in the hands of freelancers. The girl will ask for — baht short time, although, if you appear green, she might chance for more.
You will find yourself targeted by girls of both types so be polite but firm. In some bars, ladyboys can be extremely direct and may shock you.
These are more expensive than regular drinks and she gets the extra as a tip. You have no idea how quickly a six-foot LB can either vanish or suddenly materialise right beside you until you have seen it done. Also, try to define what will be on the menu before you make the deal. Same if you are only interested in a pre-op. The usual sign is to make a snipping gesture with index and middle fingers.
There are other gestures for specific sorts of entertainment. Many bars in Pattaya have rooms, usually around — baht, where the fun happens, otherwise your girl will know a place where the price will be similar. And these girls are not miserable sex slaves. You will enjoy what she does too. Check your hotel is LB friendly first. Most Pattaya hotels are, but better to be sure. Many girls are reluctant to do long-time in the early evening they can make more money with quickies but at the end of the night might be quite up for it — nice hotel bed, proper shower and breakfast on you.
Well, lunch; good luck getting one of them up before 2 pm. Expect to pay — baht depending on the time and how much of a slob you are. Remember that while these look, feel and act like beautiful women, they are motivated by a male sex drive that is just as powerful as yours is.
ID cards She may be asked to leave her ID card at the concierge desk, most probably, and this is definitely in your interest. Always use the room safe for your valuables, however. If you take a bar girl home for long time remember the bar fine meter is running till you take her back.
Do I need to mention, you must use a condom? This applies even if you think you are in a long-term relationship with a bar girl. Be sensible and be safe. After 10 pm or so LBs are just unusually gorgeous vampires there will be loads of ladyboys on the street in Pattaya, not just in the bars.
You will certainly, at least in Walking Street, see many well-known faces, as the producers of porn seek their models here.
However, you might pay much more for the services of a girl who is no hotter or more talented than any other, but just has done a lot of porn. Finally, you can meet girls online. The principal site is Thai Friendly , which has literally thousands of girls subscribed. Facebook is also popular but the profiles are mostly in Thai, so you may have difficulty. Not all the girls are seeking casual paid sex.
Some are in fact looking for longer relationships. But there are plenty who would still be interested and it will say so on their profiles. Do be aware though, that you are effectively asking someone you have never even seen in real life to come and stay in your hotel room for however long. Take sensible precautions and it might be smart to meet at a short-time hotel; she may also feel more comfortable with that. My advice to a first-timer would be to stick to bar girls until you find your feet.
But having said that, nearly all the freelancers are fine; one thing that you will find, if you do this, is that Asian TS, call them what you will, are amongst the nicest and most fun people you will ever meet.
It will also be paid back. Outside one of the many bars in Walking Street. Then there is the question of love. It is easy to get sex in Asia without paying for it. There is nothing she will not do for you. The sex will be mind-bendingly good. Most ladyboys have a great sense of humour and are strong characters — they have to be.
She can probably cook like an ace, and will delight in looking after you. But the payback is commitment. You have to be ready to give that. Asia is full of stories of Westerners who have had all their savings taken by a gold-digger who is actually running a string of men.
These are lovely women but they have real needs, supporting the rest of an enormous by Western standards family being one of them. You can just buy sex in the marketplace; or you can have casual fun, and it will cost dinner and beachwear and salon visits and so on, and maybe the buffalo got a bit sick this week. Or you can get serious. But serious is really serious, and these girls will give you their hearts on a plate.
You need to know what you want up front and not let passion — or for that matter alcohol — cloud your judgement.
Back in Pattaya, watch it on Beach Road after 1 am. They have a cabin in Walking Street. They are generally more sympathetic and speak good English — indeed, most are ex-pats themselves. Also, anything you agree to will be held to be a binding contract in any dispute. So mind what you say. If you are in a dispute with someone and you believe you are right, keep schtum and insist on calling the Tourist Police. Here, an innocent is hired out a jet-ski with significant damage which may have been covered up to make it look less obvious.
Keep calm and get the Tourist Police. The scammers are all known to them. Stay polite, say nothing and get the cops. Always avoid violence and stay calm. Being calm is big in Thailand. Be very careful never to get into a violent exchange with any Thai. This applies just as much everywhere in Asia.