After that she got wild.. I love having sex in a relationship … she is my 3rd relationship. I love sex in the relationship.. But I feel she does. She went to the doctor and he said her birth control pill may be decreasing her desire to have sex.
I get the feeling even if she regrets it, she would do something like that again. As the illustration I have chosen suggests, I feel that some of your ideas are fairly antiquated at best and misogynistic at worst.
The last thing you and your girlfriend need is for her to get pregnant right now, for the reasons I elucidate below. As I discuss here , when people are taught that sex is shameful, it can significantly mess them up, to the point that they become extremely rigid and judgmental, like you are acting. So what if your girlfriend slept with other guys?
Beyond this, you are incredibly hypocritical! Why is it okay to have a high sex drive inside a relationship, as you do, but not outside of it, as she did? She needs therapy of her own that focuses on her upbringing, where I would imagine she had an overbearing, judgmental parent, which is why she is drawn to you read Getting The Love You Want to learn about this, or read briefly about imago theory here.
You are not concerned at all about making your girlfriend happy. Read about what women need and value here. You should be concerned about the fact that you are shaming your girlfriend for her past. If you want to stay with her and marry her, you will have to stop thinking of her as damaged goods. Or, please, end the relationship so that you do not end up making your girlfriend feel bad about herself for the rest of her life.
This is extremely common, it is not like brain cancer. Thanks for writing in for this tough love. If these are your values, you need to find a vagina, I mean, woman who had few if any partners before you and you two can judge the rest of the world together. However, if you love your girlfriend, consider that the past, present, and future of her vagina comprise the majority of your thoughts about her.
She is certainly more than a vagina, no? Healthy, Effective Communication Techniques for Your Changing Family This blog is not intended as medical advice or diagnosis and should in no way replace consultation with a medical professional.
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