Whether you're new to the game or you just want to add some spice to your current routine, wikiHow can help you get your girl revved up and ready to go. Get on your way to having her ready for anything by getting started with step one below!
Steps Charming Her 1 Warm your girl up. The key to turning a girl on is being patient. As fast as guys usually get turned on, girls, and some women, need about that much build up. This means that you'll have to lay a little ground work and take the seduction part nice and slow. A huge part of warming her up, of course, is making her feel comfortable and safe. You're going to see a lot of steps below about respecting her, seeking consent, and otherwise doing things that you might not think of as "turn-ons".
Don't neglect them, they're important. Sex is very mental for many girls and women and if you help them by making it so that they don't have to worry, then that's half the battle. You know that warm, fuzzy feeling you get when you find out that someone thinks you're good looking? That's what you want to create for her. The fact that you think she's lovely to look at is a significant turn-on. Here's how to communicate it without going overboard: Say "Hey, pretty lady" or "Hello, beautiful" when you greet her.
It's simple and short, but direct and potentially patronising - use with caution. Pay her a compliment. Lower the volume and tone of your voice slightly, and say something like "You look amazing today" or "I love your eyes. Be the person who's honestly kind, a person who respects her and thinks she's more beautiful than the most picturesque sunset. Be the person who works hard and makes it easier for her to work hard, by helping to shoulder her burdens.
This will all mostly keep you from turning her off! Some girls like a guy who is nervous and even klutzy around her, but don't overdo it.
If the girl is shy, be confident; if the girl is confident, feel free to act somewhat shy. Keep your shoulders straight and your chin high, and don't be afraid to look her in the eyes. You're communicating through your body language that you're strong, brave, and worthy of her attention. Shower, put on deodorant, shave, brush your teeth and wear clean clothes. If you're feeling up to it, you can also do your hair and put on a light spray of cologne.
Knowing that you're at your physical best will help you act confident and in-charge. Save the dirty jokes and discussions of bodily functions for your guy friends. When you're with the girl you like, be polite. Use good table manners, hold the door open for her, and say please and thank you. Good manners aren't necessarily attractive, but bad manners are definitely unattractive, so play it safe. Part 2 Turning Up the Heat 1 Start with slow, gentle touches. You can do these in passing, at the end of a date, while you're watching a movie, whenever — the point is that they don't have to be saved for when you're already making out.
They can, however, indicate that you're interested in doing a little more. Ears are an erogenous zone for both sexes, and the light pressure of your breath will probably feel good. Saying the right things will also turn her on. Lightly brush the back of your fingers over the side of her face. Bonus points if you can lock eyes with her at the same time. You can gently run your thumb over her hairline if your arm is already around her shoulders, or offer to give her a neck rub. Keep your motions slow and light.
Always be confident to make the first move; hold her hand. If you're holding hands, lightly stroke the inside of her wrist or her palm. A few slow kisses on the inside of the wrist could work, too. The scalp is a sensitive area for most people, and the light repeat: Run your fingers through it, twirl it, or stroke it. If you're fairly sure it won't be unwelcome, try laying a hand on the top of her thigh. This works best if you're both sitting down.
Let it rest there lightly. If she seems receptive, you can try slowly moving your thumb back and forth over her leg, keeping the rest of your hand where it is. Part 3 Sealing the Deal 1 Give her an amazing kiss. If it's done right, a kiss can be the most effective way of turning a girl on.
Keep your breath fresh with some gum or mouthwash and keep your lips loose. Tight, puckered lips is how you kiss your grandma! You should also keep the tongue action delicate at first. The motions should be light, soft and alternate between fast and slow. Know where to put your hands. The back of her neck, the sides of her face, or around her waist are all good areas for your hands to rest during a kiss. If you touch a girl in certain areas without her consent, it is sexual assault. A simple "Is this OK?
If she says yes, you're all clear; if she says no, stop immediately. Many girls are way more sexual than you, potentially. Give them credit for that and there's nothing wrong with telling them how much you want them once you've gotten your foot in the door a bit. This actually turns them on! Don't be really gross about it but don't be afraid to tell them how sexy you think they are and how you can't wait to get them in bed. If you tried some of the suggestions above and she seemed receptive, here are some more intimate areas you can work with, using light touches and soft, slow kisses.
Neck, throat, collarbones and shoulders Feet and ankles The small of her back toward the bottom of the spine Back of the knees.