Very sexy directions inside. This story about how to make love to a woman has a companion video. Please take this in with an open mind, because I notice this is where guys think they know more than they do.
The way you talk about sex, it tells me how great it is for you. Plus, the articles you send out in your newsletter are beyond helpful and informative. Where were you all our lives? It turned my whole relationship and sex life a complete ! Sex goes beyond the moment of penetration. The whole lovemaking experience can be orgasmic when you know how to take a woman into her sexual mind state and then give her stacking, expanding orgasmic pleasure.
Women want a man with a plan — a bedroom game plan. Women ask me constantly, how do I get him to stop thinking penetration is the goal? How do I get him to take the lead to more sensual experiences? How do I get him to slow down and stop rushing me? So how does he show confidence and bedroom dominance? The first step starts with having the plan, the confidence to move a woman through a sexually escalating and then calming experience.
The second step happens before you start having sex too. Step two is setting a sensual environment. How do I do both? Use a lot of variety of finger, tongue, genital stimulation… keep her desire increasing. This is about momentum. Do NOT go right for her breasts or genitals… Start from the outside hands, feet, hair, back and slowly work your way to her breasts and genitals. You are going to be aware of moving her up her arousal ladder without pushing her too fast.
Think about toggling — going back and forth from stimulation to relaxation and back, again and again. Allowing her to get turned on a little, then letting her system rest a tiny bit from it, then stimulating her again will actually arouse her faster than doing just stimulation. You have felt it already. When you take charge and move her body around, when you spank her butt, you take a dominant role. That increases the polarity and both of you get a direct hit of masculinity, which obviously works for her.
I need to work on my polarity. You want to start a day or two ahead of time. Send her sexy texts, tease her in all good ways, let her know how much you want her. Go out and buy her some special lingerie and, when the day comes, lay it out on the bed.
If she likes to wear sexy shoes, put those out, too. Set the temperature in the room just the way she likes it. Put on a playlist of romantic music you know gets her turned on. This is what women find very romantic and it has special auditory processing that puts your mind in the Theta brainwave state — which is the orgasmic brain wave state too.
Have some candles ready or just pop in one of these orange party bulbs so the lighting encourages her to get naked. Make sure you have a pitcher of water by the bed and a couple of glasses. Put another sheet on top of the mattress cover.
Have a stack of towels near the bed. Hand-towels and washcloths for wiping off lube and fluids. Bath towels for putting under her if she wants more absorbency. Do whatever you need to do to get the bedroom ready for lovemaking. The Orgasmic Fantastic Sex Date. Go ahead and grab a copy with my compliments and commit it to memory. You also get a transcript of the audio for later reference.
Give her a foot rub or a neck rub. Stroke her hair, tell her how sexy she is and how much you want her. She knows you bought her something. Girls love a present, especially one that makes us feel sexy. During dinner, tell her how much you love her. When dinner is over, give her direction. Your surprise is on the bed. When she sees the lingerie spread out on the bed, say: I want to see you in it. Step back and admire her. Let me hug you and hold you for awhile. Start to synchronize your breaths.
If she needs to get anything off her chest, just listen. This is not the time to try to solve her problems. Just being there you will soothe her. Keep telling her how sexy she looks in her new lingerie. And your nipples, I have always loved your nipples. Then start giving her a body massage. This is where you may want to remove some pieces of the lingerie. Then roll her around and start kissing her a little bit. Shift your weight on top of her, but not all at once.
You get closer to her, drape your leg across her body. Kiss her face, her forehead, her neck. Then rise up over her and play-act pinning her down so she knows she can get out from underneath you if she wants to. Kiss her chest and her shoulders. Then move toward her mouth, but just brush your lips and then go back to her neck.
Brush her lips again, and come back. Brush again, and head for her ears. Then maybe kiss her again, this time giving her a little lick, then back to that erogenous zone—her ears. Your job is to move around and give her a lot of variety.
Just let her relax into the sensations of making out. Then go for the deeper kisses, however, she likes it—french kisses, deep probing make-out kisses, and start running your hands all over her body. Try and cover as much of her skin as you can. Tell her how beautiful her pussy looks. Again, listen to your internal voice and tell her something specific you like about her private parts. No, not all men care about the visuals, nor do all women care about the verbal feedback, but generally most do.
Tell her when you notice her yoni turning a darker color, getting plumper. Tell her you want to lick her pussy and hear her moan with pleasure. Tell her you love seeing her orgasm face and it makes you feel like a stud.
Your job is not to give her an orgasm, just to give her pleasure. Let go of any attachment to an outcome. It just creates performance anxiety for both of you. And confident men are good with whatever happens.
So just let things happen instead of trying to force it. There are over 90 oral pleasuring techniques and 40 or 50 different hand techniques. When someone knows how to eat a pussy well, their partner wants it all the time. Same with blow jobs. You want to get inside her vagina to stimulate the urethral and perineal sponges of erectile tissue and the sensitive vaginal nerves and clitoral legs crura.
Rub and gently knead the tissue underneath her pubic hair areas too. And at the top, across the mons venus where the pubic hair is has tissue that needs to be softened for her to fully ejaculate. You want to get her fully engorged. You want the entire area to be full of blood so she basically has a hard-on in her vulva. Then you will start moving her around on the bed.
Pay attention to her responses and adjust.