By Sabine Walter, Pierre A. Lehu Whether you consider yourself a Don Juan, a Lady Chatterly, or a sexual novice, everybody can get the most pleasure out of sex with a little more knowledge. You should know that foreplay is something you should take into consideration with each interaction you and your partner have, as well as how to keep things a little adventurous to prevent a humdrum sex life. And another key to good sexual functioning is to sweep away any sexual myths that have been hiding in the corners of your brain.
Use Foreplay to Set the Mood throughout the Day Foreplay is probably one of the most misunderstood words in the sexual vocabulary. In fact, when some men hear the word foreplay, they still think of golf instead of sex. But slowly and surely, the male population is learning that foreplay is as important to good sex as using a 9-iron is to good golf. In its simplest form, foreplay means the touching and caressing that goes on between two people just before intercourse.
Foreplay helps both partners experience the physical manifestations of arousal necessary for sexual satisfaction. It should begin hours, if not days, before you plan to have sex.
Here are just a few ways of how to work foreplay into the small moments of everyday life: Drop in at work with a picnic lunch complete with strawberries and whipped cream.
Send her a dozen roses, one at a time. Text message love notes. By trying a new place, you get to sample new foods and a new atmosphere. The need for variety also holds true in the bedroom.
If you always make love exactly the same way, at the same time, and in the same place, the routine can become boring. A woman may actually come to dread the way a man always touches her in the exact same way.
Here are some ways to spice up your sex life: Take turns ordering a sex toy on the web. Once a week make love in a room other than your bedroom. Have sex for a month without once using the missionary position.
Movies and TV, our friends and peers, and a variety of other things give everyone some pretty unrealistic expectations about sex. But for many younger people who are still virgins, the weight of this sexual status seems to grow heavier by the hour. If you feel sexually frustrated, you can masturbate. Rather than rushing into sex just because you reach a certain age, find out how to give your feelings time to grow and develop.
If you are very careful about protecting yourself and are fully aware of the risks involved, then a one-night stand may be something that you indulge in once, or maybe twice. But some people make one-night stands a part of their lifestyles. To them, sex is about quantity, not quality. Although you may not catch an STD the first time you have a one-night stand, each time you have one, you increase the odds — in particular, because those people with whom you have these one-night stands are obviously also prone to risky behavior.
Apart from the risks, one-night stands just do not make for the best sex. What makes having sex with another person better than masturbating is the intimacy, the shared feelings, the romance attached to the moment. None of these circumstances exists during a one-night stand. And then you have to deal with the next morning. A woman may be in a relationship with someone who mistreats her, and instead of running for the hills, she agrees to go one step further and have sex with him.
This idea is a prime example of putting the cart before the horse. You have to work on the relationship — build it up and make it into something worth sharing together — before you add the final ingredient, which is sex.
Sure, natural talent has something to do with how good you are, but seeking to improve your skills is just as important, because the more you train, the better you become. This idea is just as true with sex. Everyone can become a better lover. Some of the most common difficulties that people experience can be easily alleviated if you work at it. Every person wants and needs the same things from sex You and your partner probably have some tastes in common, but certainly not in everything.
And why should you? Although you both enjoy orgasms, how many you need in a particular period may vary, as well as your likes and dislikes for the methods you use to achieve those orgasms. However, having unrealistic expectations can get you into trouble. If your eyesight gets weaker, do you go around squinting, or run to the eye doctor?
So if your sexual apparatus diminishes, why would you give up on it entirely? That sexual functioning declines with age is a given, but that it disappears altogether is most definitely not.
As you grow older, you go through certain stages, which are different for men and women. Men may need their partners to stimulate their penises or get a prescription for an erectile dysfunction drug. Women stop producing natural lubricants and have to apply the store-bought variety. Keep having sex as long as you physically can, and sex will help keep your life worth living.