Is oral sex biblically wrong within marriage? Our question is in the area of oral sex. Is it scripturally wrong for married couples?
There is no biblical evidence that it is a sin against God for a husband and wife to express love for each other in this way. Even the book of Leviticus, which mentions many Old Testament sex-related prohibitions and rules for the Israelites, never mentions it. We see no reason to believe that expressing affection for one's mate in this way is forbidden or would necessarily harm one's walk with God. We are aware that some have tried to make a biblical issue out of what parts of the body a married couple can and cannot kiss.
In their minds, there is only only one biblical form of sexual expression in marriage, sexual intercourse. They attempt to defend their viewpoint on biblical grounds—trying to make it into a holiness issue.
However, no where do we see Scripture putting such limits on the sexual relationship of a godly husband and wife, even Levitical priests who were forbidden to do many things. Most knowledgeable and spiritually mature Christians realize that God is the author of sex and love, and every part and sensation of the human body, and that He intended the relationship between husband and wife to be loving, sensuous, joyful, creative and full of pleasure. Read the somewhat cryptic Song of Solomon from a lover's point of view.
Using delicate, romantic language and metaphors, it describes a beautiful, affectionate, romantic, sensuous, joyful and passionate love between husband and wife.
It seems to be speaking of the lovers tasting, eating and drinking of each other's bodies Song of Songs 2: One cannot be sure what this means exactly, but certainly we see no evidence here or elsewhere that God is concerned with what part of their bodies might be touching, including where they kissed their mate. He wants all Christians, including husbands and wives, to be kind to each other, patient, respectful and unselfish.
Ultimate love is pure in motive and action. Follow that goal, and you are not likely to go wrong. Perhaps you have heard some one claim that oral lovemaking in marriage as wrong by associating it with the ancient cities of Sodom and Gomorrah. This comparison is misguided and offensive. It is quite clear that Sodom's problems had nothing to do with how godly, loving marriage partners were expressing their affection for each other. To the contrary, there was a total lack of godly, loving, heterosexual marriage partners in Sodom save Lot and his wife.
We shall not name the many gross and demonically inspired evils that probably took place among the wicked there. It is better left unsaid. Suffice it to say that the list would sicken most people. Serious students of the Bible and archaeology know that the kind of things that were going on at Sodom were done by extremely ungodly people, expressing enormous selfishness, total lack of love, extreme spiritual depravity, and major rebellion against God.
In other words, the sex lives of godly husbands and wives was not an issue at these cities, nor did it have anything to do with its destruction. Although the Bible is silent on the specifics of what you have asked apparently leaving it up to the mutual agreement of the marriage partners , it is not silent on sex in marriage. Conservative Christian marriage counselors Dr. In God's view there is a mutuality of experience between husband and wife. Each has an equal right to the other's body.
Each has not only the freedom but also the responsibility to please the other and to be pleased in return. The husband's body now belongs to the wife.