My husband and i did this a year before our marriage. We used empty amulet tubes metal hollow pendants from Afghanistan. We each wrote out our promise and wish for the other on a small piece of paper, dated it, and sigilized it with our sexual fluids, then inserted the paper into an amulet tube and exchanged tubes so that each kept the other's vow and wish.
The containers need not be amulet tubes or pendants, of course; you could use a tiny "wish box" or any sort of container, including a pair of small sea shells. The only difference between that love spell as given and what we did was that we performed the spell as a couple.
We keep our dressed lodestones together in a covered candy dish on an altar "the Bird Altar" -- so called because it contains a lot of images of birds, including Hummingbirds in our bedroom, at the northern wall. We renew the spell by performing it once a year, at the Winter Solstice. For the significance of the northern wall in "bedroom" workings, see the page on Chinese Sexual Alchemy mentioned above.
Yearly Hummingbird dances are held a few miles from my home. The Hummingbird parts are danced by teenaged boys with flutes, the flower parts are danced by teenaged girls. The form of the dance is a line dance by the girls, and the boys circle them and approach them each in turn, as Hummingbirds approach flowers.
This indigenous veneration of the Hummingbird as a deity with sexual and love harbinger overtones extends all down the Pacific coast and into what is now Mexico, where it can be found in the form of reverence for La Chuparosa the Rose-Sucker in Spanish.
In Mayan Mexican folk magic, the Hummingbird is also the symbol of -- and again, actually the ancient deity of -- love, sex, and marriage. Here is a contemporary incantatory love spell taken from a Mexican votive candle that, beneath its veil of Catholic formality, literally calls upon the indigenous Divine Hummingbird for a blessing on love.
I shall give it both in Spanish and in English translation; note that the word "chupa" can be translated as "suck out" or "extract" and is used as a reference to the bird's name Chuparosa and as a magical instruction to the bird. Al Poder de la Chuparosa The Power of the Hummingbird Divina Chupparosa, tu que por el Poder divino endulzas y alegras las cosas quiero que endulces mi vida y alegres mi corazon ya que por tu divina intercession he de venecar a mi amado a y solo sea para mi Divine Hummingbird, who enriches and glorifies everything with your Holy Power, I ask that you enrich my life and love with your Divine Intercession so that my lover will want only me y asi como chupas la miel de las flores, chupa la sal y mala suerte que tengo, y asi en todo vencer, in the same way that you extract honey from flowers, extract all misfortune and bad luck from my life; novenario te he de hacer, para que tu no me divides y me traigas al ser amado fiel y lleno de amor.
These are small amulets carved of soapstone or cast in terra cotta. They are activated by tying the hairs of the lovers into the amulet and by sigilizing with sexual fluids. The Munachi charm is for heightened sexual passion and depicts a copulating couple.
We keep one on the small sex-altar at the head of our bed. The Munaiwarmi charm is for fidelity and depicts a clothed couple embracing as they stand side by side. Pictures of both of these charms with full instructions -- plus similar information about the related Illas charm for the sexual well-being of farm animals -- can be found on their respective Lucky W Amulet Archive web pages.
We keep a cross-cultural form of the Illas charm on our sex-altar; it is a Japanese netsuke carved from a tagua-nut depicting two little mice curled up together. It serves to remind us of the oxytocin-fueled pair-bonding enjoyed by sexually excited Prairie Voles. They are called "hoodooing a man's [or woman's] nature. Typical love spells of this sort are the "nation sack" and a knot spell called "tying his [or her] nature.
A "Blue Vulva" spell using a similar candle shaped like female genitalia is also possible, but far less common in actual practice. If the couple breaks up and the spouse does not dispose of the nation sack or knotted string, or take off the "Blue Penis" spell, the person whose nature was hoodood will thenceforward be unable to have a normal sex life with a new partner due to the old spell in which his or her sexuality was controlled by the ex-partner.
Coercive love spells like these can be taken off, however, and there are numerous ways to do so. The symptoms may appear similar to the former type, but a sexual revenge spell is easier to take off, according to accounts by root workers.
The usual counter-spell is a regular jinx-removal or uncrossing spell. In category 1 above, there are several names and working variations. These coercive love spells have been collected in oral tradition in dozens of forms from all over the South.
The purpose of them is to prevent a man from having an erection or an orgasm with another woman. They are most often called "hoodooing a man's nature" "nature" is a euphemism for "virility".
Other names for these love spells are "measuring the man," "tying up his nature," and, in one form, "The Blue Penis spell" so called after a blue candle burned in that version of the spell. Here, in rough outline, is how it works: Before going to bed with the man, the woman gets herself a length of ordinary soft white cotton string and hides it in the bedclothes.
While the man is hard, she takes the measure of his penis with the string or with her finger, which measurement she transfers to the string. After they have sex, she smears some of his ejaculate on the string. This can be done in the bed or in the bathroom.
If possible, she should not have an orgasm during the love-making that leads to this spell, because she might lose herself in pleasure and get careless, and risk being "tied" herself. She also steals a few of the man's pubic hairs or underarm hairs, or, failing that, his head hairs.
Alternatively, she should also get some ejaculate on a clean white handkerchief cloth. She should be very careful to get none of her own vaginal juices on the cloth. When the man falls a asleep after sex, she takes the string and ties nine knots in it some say seven knots. The knots are made starting from the center and working outward, alternating left and right sides until the ends are reached.
Each knot must be activated as follows: She forms the knot but does not pull it tight. When it is ready, she calls the man's name and at the moment that he answers, be it with a word or a sound, she pulls the knot tight. She must then make an excuse to him, explaining why she called him. It is the difficulty of making these excuses, i believe, that has led many women to recommend making the nine or seven knots on separate occasions, tying one knot each time with fresh semen.
Once the string is fully knotted, some women wrap it up with the man's hairs in the semen-wetted cloth, making a packet.
With or without the cloth and the hairs, the woman keeps the knot spell on her. She may put it in a red flannel mojo bag and wear the bag always, under her skirt or pinned to her panties, anywhere beneath her waist. She may piece the knotted string out with another piece of string and wear it tied around her waist. She may even thread it into a self-covered fabric belt and wear it thus amongst her clothing. When she is not wearing it, she must keep it in a locked box or trunk.
The man must not see it or touch it. From then on he will be hoodood and will not be able to get hard with any other woman but her, and the only way for him to get this condition off is to undertake a lengthy uncrossing spell -- or to steal back the knotted string and untie the knots himself.
The Blue Penis Candle Spell uses a candle as an adjunct to the knot spell: The candle is carved with the man's name and a command such as "Don't get hard with anyone but me! The knotted string is coiled around its base while it is burned in seven segments over seven days.
The knot maybe burned with the candle or, as some people work it, when the candle is done, the woman puts the cord in her mojo bag as described above. Another way to do the Blue Penis Candle Spell is to collect the semen on seven occasions as described above, and to burn one portion of the blue penis candle after each collection of semen and knot-tying, keeping the string coiled around the base of the candle when it is not required in the bed for more semen collection.
In the end, there will be seven knots tied in the string and the blue penis candle will have burned in seven portions, although not necessarily on seven successive days. The string is then kept in a mojo bag, as before, or burned with the candle. In category 2 above, if the woman gets angry at the man and wants to really do a number on him and ruin his nature, she can use the knotted thread as part of a wicked candle-burning job.
She gets a Black Penis candle and warms it up, then presses the string into the softened wax the same way it went on the man. She anoints the candle with Crossing Oil and sprinkles it well with Goofer Dust a mixture of graveyard dust, red pepper, and herbs. Then she lights both the wick and the string and lets them burn to the bottom, knotted cord and all. That is a severely coercive love spell. As i said at the outset, there are many variations of "taking a man's measure" or "tying his nature" -- but those are a few of the best-known.
Despite several attempts on both of our parts to reconcile, the unkind words that had been spoken and the disastrous events that had transpired between us were impossible for either of us to forgive. Neither he nor i are the kind to forget, so that was never an issue. Each of us was right in our own way, and each of us had a list of grievances against the other. For two years we tried making formal statements of apology and forgiveness and promising to never mention the precipitating events again, but no matter what we vowed, one or the other of us would eventually bring up issues of "betrayal" or "lack of trust" and the relationship would unravel again.
To put a final end to the rift between us, we performed a simple little ritual. We bought a red figurative candle from Bolivia that depicted a man and a woman in 19th century clothes standing arm in arm with wicks coming from their heads. We sat on the floor with the candle between us and sprinkled Reconciliation Powder on each other and on the candle. Then we lit the candle wicks he lit mine and i lit his and silently held hands while the candle burned.
This ritual worked wonders. Our relationship became harmonious once again and we no longer fretted about those two "lost years" of strife.