Source I was 19 and had been going out to gay bars for about six months. It was a warm summer night as I leaned against a post by the dance floor, sipping my beer, enjoying the music, and watching the men. The beautiful, hot, sweaty, dancing, sexy men. He sauntered up to me with a grin that said I want to taste you.
With a few pleasantries and names exchanged, he pressed himself against me and tried to tongue the pole behind my head through my mouth. Not long after that we went back to his place where I spent the night fucking him. It was so much easier back then, in the 80s. There were more gay bars in Toronto than I care to recall, if only because I have such fond memories of the men, the dancing, and the music.
Fuck I loved the 80s! Using poppers for the first time. Picking up guys on the street at 1am. Fucking my first boy with vaseline.
Then a year later being told we needed condoms and water-based lubricant. So much has changed when it comes to how we meet people, and not for sex, and not only for gays. Sometime around , if not just before, a company in Toronto started a telephone classifieds service for buy and sell and people looking for roommates. Little known to the company, people began using the system to meet other people for sex and dates.
There were some smart business people in that company and they realized the opportunity. Soon after they launch one of the first telephone dating personals systems. Many other companies birthed to do the same, and I managed such a system for gay men called Cruiseline, in my role of Audiotext Director at Pink Triangle Press from to I needed to find out if this online site was in any way a threat to our telephony dating service.
Funny how things work out. I started talking to a sexy younger man who was in Poland on vacation, but lived just outside of Toronto. We met about a month later when he returned — and oh how predictable — after dinner I brought him home and fucked his brains out this time with condoms and water-based lube.
We were lovers for two years and remain best friends to this day. You could find a site for muscle only, bears, twinks, bareback sex, older daddies, and so on. Which brings us to present day. Hot guy only feet away!
He could be over in less time that it would take to order and wait for a pizza to arrive. Would you like pepperoni with that? Some hot Italian sausage? Dating apps became a major disruption to the economic model of going out and meeting people at bars. While the hey-day of gay bars in Toronto started to decline in the early s, bar owners in the Toronto gay village noticed a big decline in patronage.
But why go out and spend money on drinks or cover, when you could stay at home and order in? When you meet someone in person you have to socialize. You see them, hear them, and pick up all kinds of subconscious, observational cues about them. You can select a man online like you would order your groceries. Do you want, white, black, asian, other blond, brown, black hair or bald blue, green, or hazel eyes clean shaven, scruffy, bearded.