You have to make her feel it deep down and truly believe it. No one feels sexy every single moment of every single day. Your girlfriend might wake up and think she looks disheveled. You take for granted what you have and stop reminding her of her allure. You have to tap into her emotions and get her excited for you. She should be craving your touch and longing for the closeness intimacy brings. When you make a woman feel hot, it makes her want to be hot for you.
It gets her thinking about how much she wants you because of how much you desire her. It keeps the fire burning between you and the sexual chemistry on full blast. Now, exactly how do you get her there? Being flirty and physical is one part of it. The rush of positive emotions she gets will help her feel closer to you and physically act on it. Want to have your lady throwing herself at you?
Try some of these: Take her out for an adventure together. Have her dress up to go dancing or try a new restaurant in the city. Go for a Sunday picnic on the water or a walk through the park. Be a kid again. Eat too much ice cream, have a water balloon fight, or hit up Six Flags. Text her something meaningful or sweet to brighten her day. Text her something naughty and let her know how much she turns you on.
Surprise her with a gift simply because you want to show her how gorgeous she is: Touch her morning, noon, and night or whenever you see her. Stroke her hair in the morning, discreetly grab her butt at lunch, and kiss her stomach while on the couch at night. Caress her thighs, nibble on her neck, and build her up naturally. Mix it up during foreplay. Gently describe what she feels like, tastes like, and smells like in an erotic and flattering way.
Come home and take her to the bedroom right away. Show her how irresistible she is and that you have to have her now. Explore your sexuality together. Role-play and try on new costumes. Discover her secret desires and act on them. Go to a sex shop and pick out something for a special night. Give her a sensual massage with oils. Take your time to caress every inch of her body and let her know how much you cherish it.
Come up with your own creative ideas to express your feelings, too. Sign up below to get immediate access to the First Date Field Manual. Flat out, stupidest idea ever. When I read that, first thought that came to mind was the memory of my girlfriend lying drunk on the floor of a toilet after throwing her guts up everywhere. Sure my girlfriend is sexy, a lot of people think so. Not hammered and praying to the porcelain goddess. In fact, doing it this way is honest and shows compassion.
It shows you can appreciate her even at the worst of times. Every woman loves to be told she is beautiful no matter what.
If your girlfriend is a sloppy, drunk mess you should be taking care of her better on not leave her lying on the floor in the first place. As a woman, when we are just waking up out of bed with messy hair and no make up on it is so nice to still be told we are beautiful.
Or when we are sick and feel terrible, it would brighten up our day to be called beautiful then as well. My boyfriend of four years calls me beautiful all the time, but it is the times when I least expect it that mean the most. My boyfriend can be up pulling all nighters stressed from doing work or be sweaty and gross from yard work and I still see him as the most handsome man alive and I make sure he knows it too. You clearly took everything Nick said out of context and just flat out made yourself look like a fool.
Your advice is excellent Nick, keep up the good work! Every guy really should read your articles! Reply stephen on August 26, My wife is a woman and she has specifically noted that she feels as though I am being fake when saying that to her when she knows she is not looking good. In other words it will cause her to question your credibility next time so this statement is wrong for certain women.
BT on July 25, Dear Key, Reply John on February 22, Any of those suxual things, grabbing her butt from time to time, taking her strait to the bedroom, asking her to pose for u and take pictures, going to the sex shop, explore sexuality, talk dirty to her In er ear while we are out, tell her how much I want her, none of it works. I want her to feel sexy, as well as I want us to have a fun, mutually satisfied sex life. You should both want to try to please each other completely. We have a very happy relationship otherwise, and are both very athletic and attractive.
Reply Sheila on February 3, So she has a self confidence and self value issue. I have been married for 8 years…. Its definitely a point where the two lines intersect that you arent like other men.
I have felt the Sam about my husband…. But I had to bring walls down before I could accept that from him… to feel it. She does need you…. Ferrerosa on January 19, I just said something that I hope made her day. Thanks for the help, kiddo. Reply van on July 9, Today I cried to my boyfriend explaining how he doesnt make me feel special and beautiful.
I basically broke up with him this mrn. I feel like I deserve better. Now it got to the point I dnt get sexualy arose for him, I have to force myself sometimes to have sex with him. The moment a person feels obligated to do something, is the moment desire dies.