TNN May 27, , Firstly, because most women I know complain that their men are not mature enough and it is a known fact that women mature faster than men.
When I look at older men, I see maturity and a potential father figure which may be of emotional benefit for those that have been products of a broken home or have lost a father at a young age, or simply love being cocooned and protected. Older men also tend to be more indulgent and generous given that at this stage, they have a steady job and finances in place and lastly, a couples greatest concern, that he perhaps lacks the energy and stamina of a younger lover can certainly be compensated through skill and expertise.
As for why the older man dates a younger woman? But I must end this on a funny note: I love my girlfriend years-old a lot and I want to marry her. What do I do? She slept with you, so does that make her characterless? Does a widow or divorcee finding love again make her characterless? Does a woman having multiple relationships before marriage make her characterless? What ridiculous, outdated, regressive thought processes are you subjecting yourself and her too?
Life is all about experiences, it is about the courage to follow your heart and dreams, and the ability to take the responsibility for decisions gone wrong. Character is about belief and integrity of purpose and not who you had sex with.
To leave her because of gossip leaves just you characterless. I am a year-old girl and my boyfriend is eight years elder to me. We are planning to get married but I am extremely scared to tell my parents about that because they feel love marriages are not long-lasting, and that age difference matters a lot in marriages.
How do I convince them? If they have preconceived notions of how things have to be, then you have to only bust those myths by example. Make a list of people that have had successful love marriages and are happy together, and make a list of those that have had arranged marriages and are either not happy, or have gotten divorced.
Let them digest it for a couple of days. A week later, tell them you would much prefer love to an arranged marriage and let that sink in for a couple of weeks. And finally, Google why older men make good husbands and keep the data handy for when they finally meet him. My girlfriend is a great girl but every time I am out with my friends, she keeps calling and checking where I am. When I tell her not to do so, she says she does it out of concern. Trust is something that builds over time.
It is up to you, your words and your actions to either make her insecure or put her at ease. So be completely open with her about your life, your friends, your hobbies, your activities, your whereabouts. Enjoy the attention and the care.
Message her how much you miss her from time to time. Well, who said relationships were easy? I am year-old girl. I like a year-old guy. We get along well and our families have been friends for many years. He likes me, but feels that age will be an issue later in our lives. Do you think he has a valid point? There are a lot of pros and cons to you dating an older man and him dating a younger woman. But relationships are about individuals and compatibility, and all relationships, irrespective of age, involve compromise and adjustments.
Ask him what exactly he feels will be an issue and sort it at root level. Is he too set in his ways and perhaps feels you will not be able to run a home his way?
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