Share Anal Sex Some people see it as taboo. Others see as it as the ultimate act of trust, love and closeness. Now, when you are a hormonal, shy and unconfident person such as myself at least back then, anyway — the thought that someone would actually want to have sex with me was enough for me to completely drop my guard and say OK!
Unfortunately, they seemed more concerned with how good it felt for them, rather than how comfortable I was. I had never ever experienced anything like that before — and nothing could prepare me for what was to come. Eric had spent all night trying to convince me that it was going to be great, and not wanting to disappoint, I obliged. Just the thought of having something else up there brought me out in a cold sweat, and filled me with a sense of foreboding.
And then I met the man who would later become my husband. There was no pressure to ever do anything. At that point, I felt so incredibly stupid — but as we got closer and I learnt to trust him, my opinions towards sex changed — I wanted to experience everything with him.
The difference this time, was that we actually spent some time getting ready before going ahead. And now, I have the most amazing and satisfying anal sex. Why would I want to have anal sex?!?!
Firstly, the act of penetration in any form is something incredibly sensual but requires a good amount of trust — so to share that with someone is just amazing. For me, I want to have the best of both worlds, because there is so much pleasure to be had. Anyway… This guide has been put together to help those would-be bottoms or curious tops navigate their first time with ease and confidence.
RELAX One of the biggest parts of ensuring that you have the best experience possible is making sure you are in the right frame of mind. If you are in anyway tense or nervous, then your body will react accordingly. And that is what happened to me on my first time. Make sure you use a good quality oil, and go for scents that are going to help you relax as well.
If it helps, use a bath bomb or three. Scents like Lavender, Chamomile and Neroli are all great for creating a relaxed and calm mind. The whole point is just to not only relax the body but the mind as well. And certainly, I would never expect anyone who has never experienced any anal stimulation to just jump right in.
So what do I mean by preparation? Like any muscle in your body, the sphincter needs to be prepared to stretch to accommodate anything coming in.
My first recommendation is to usually just experiment with using some lube and a finger to start off with. Having a cock be the first thing to ever go up is going to be a memorable experience, but for all the wrong reasons!
LUBE — I cannot stress this enough. You will want to use plenty of it — and it needs to be a good quality anal lube. In order to make it as comfortable as possible, you need to ensure things stay plenty slippery. Did I mention Lube? You need to take it SLOW and be patient. So make sure that you and the person you are with understands to take things slowly and at a pace you are comfortable with. To have the most comfortable and enjoyable experience, if you are receiving, you will want to make sure that you are in complete control.
So have your partner lie on their back, and then you can straddle them and lower yourself. This way, you are in control of how deep they go. You could also try lying on your side, with your knees up close to your chest — this is often what I would suggest when using anal toys, as it makes it easier for insertion, so may help make penetration easier for you.
As long as you have taken the time to properly prepare yourself, and relax, you can get through it. It will be painful to start with. You need to make sure you have fun with it! As a man, anal sex can open the door to amazing sensations. There are also reports that some ladies can experience amazing orgasms from anal sex as well. But remember, anal sex is not going to be for everyone.
Be respectful of each others boundaries. Once you are comfortable having anal sex, consider throwing some toys into the mix as well. If you are the giver, have you considered popping in a butt plug for double the pleasure?
Or how about using a stroker if your receiving partner also has a penis? Double the pleasure for them! Well I hope you have enjoyed this guide and found something useful or interesting.