She points out that God created sex and has a purpose for it defined within the context of marriage. After a cucumber soaks in the brine long enough, it is changed into a pickle. Most of us are like pickles. We sit in the brine of a sex-saturated culture, absorbing its values and beliefs, and it changes the way we think.
Even most Christians are pickled today, believing and acting exactly like everyone else who has been sitting in the brine of a culture hostile to God and His Word.
The message of much TV, movies, and music is that there is no greater pleasure available, and that it is the right of every individual, even teenagers, to have this pleasure. Since people are infinitely valuable because God made us in His image, that is a slap in the face whether we realize it or not.
The Christian perspective is that the purpose of sex is relational, with pleasure as the by-product. The Bible teaches that sex welds two souls together. God knew what He was doing when He limited sex to within marriage!
He wants to change our thinking and beliefs to be in alignment with His. He made it not only efficient for making babies, but pleasurable and deeply satisfying. He created hormones to make everything work right and make us want to be sexual. Unlike animals, whose mating behavior is purely instinctive for the purpose of reproducing, human sexuality has several wonderful purposes.
God means for all of them to be contained within marriage. Fruitfulness is not limited to having children, though. A mutually loving and serving sexual relationship between husband and wife can produce emotional and personal fruitfulness as well.
Both people are nurtured to grow, develop, and soar, becoming more of what God means them to be. The other big purpose for sex, emotional and physical intimacy, is only possible within marriage. The one-flesh union of sex is a picture of the way two souls are joined together into a shared life.
In fact, we could say that sex is like solder that is used to fuse two pieces of metal together. The entire book of Song of Solomon is gorgeous poetry that glorifies married sexual relations.
God also says that an important purpose of sex is to serve as an earthbound illustration of the mystical but real unity of Christ and the church, where two very different, very other beings are joined together as one. What Does God Actually Say? The overarching statement God makes is that sex is to be completely contained within marriage.
God wants us to harness the power of sex within marriage. So God says not to engage in sex with anyone before marriage, with anyone else once we are married, with anyone of the same sex; or with prostitutes, or with family members, or with animals.
God says that sexual purity is a treasure to be guarded and valued. In our culture, many people have been deceived into thinking that their virginity is worthless, something to get rid of. God calls us to purity after marriage as well by remaining faithful to our spouse. We glorify God in our sexuality by using self-control to stay pure if single, and by loving our spouse sexually if married. The good news is that purity can be restored if we confess our sin and put our trust in Jesus to forgive us and give us a new, holy quality of life.
God says that sex is to be reserved for adults only. Their entire view of sex has been warped and skewed. God never meant for children to be introduced to sex. God wants us to actively fight sexual temptation. He says to flee immorality. Another question to ask is, Can I glorify God in what my flesh wants to do? If the answer is no, God invites us to meet the struggle with His supernatural energy instead of our own puny human strength.
Why Sexual Sin Hurts So Much Pastors and counselors will tell you that there is a greater intensity of shame and pain in the people they counsel when the issues involve sexual sin. As mentioned above, it may be helpful to think of sex like solder. God created it to make a strong, powerful bond that creates healthy, stable families into which children are welcomed.
But when people fuse their souls through sexual sin without the safety and commitment of marriage, it causes tremendous pain when the relationship rips apart. Have you ever seen a broken weld? When sex is disconnected from love and commitment, it also disconnects the body from the soul. This inflicts deep wounds of shame and guilt on a heart that has been used for gratification instead of love. Waylon Ward says that sex sins expose and exploit our deepest emotional and spiritual vulnerabilities.
There are soul ties that bind two partners together in unseen ways and there is a sense that part of you has been stolen. There is a hole in your soul where the connection was ripped from you. Note the runaway epidemic of sexually transmitted diseases, and the resulting increase in infertility. Note the number of broken hearts and broken families. Note the alarming amount of sexual abuse. Note the soaring rates of depression, especially in teens, much of which is related to sexual activity outside of marriage.
God invented sex for His glory and our benefit. Waylon Ward, Sex Matters: This is where God draws the line between sex within marriage and sex outside of marriage, which determines what is sin and what is not. I have the privilege of serving with Living Hope Ministries www.
I mainly minister to women, for whom a history of sexual abuse is a common denominator.