If you look at the behaviour of young people, it is all built around the need for sexual attraction. This may wane as we get older, but we are all still looking for sex, and if it goes from our marriage or relationship we will seek it elsewhere, whatever our age.
Rochelle Peachey and her husband Phil, both 46, have been married for ten years. They recognise the importance of putting constant effort into a relationship so that it remains vital and exciting, and enjoy an invigorating physical bond. All around us we see couples breaking up or having affairs, and it is nearly always down to a lack of sex in the marriage.
Sex is the bond that keeps couples together posed by models She and David, who have two sons, aged 26 and 18, between them, have both been married before, and credit the success of their second marriage to the intense physical attraction between them. You need to keep the sex in a marriage fresh and interesting, and never become complacent about the way you look. I see women who let themselves put on weight, never wear make-up, then wonder why their husbands are having affairs.
They are proud of the efforts they make to sustain their libido. We try to be as adventurous as when we first got together. A bad sex life was one of the things that killed my first marriage. I have learned never to go to bed angry after a row, and never to turn Phil down. It consolidates the bond which keeps people together.
You have to make time for sex, no matter how exhausted you might be feeling, because it will bring you together. If you feel the chemistry has gone but was there once, you can work at bringing it back. Children are a key distraction, turning what may once have been a love nest into a family home in which romance can easily suffer. Jason Heller, 37, and his wife Rachel, 35, are at that critical stage where young children and busy careers have shifted the focus away from life a deux.
Both admit that their sex life has waned as a result. One in 20 couples are virtually celebate, rising to one in 10 among the overs, research suggests Rachel says: The days of wild abandon are gone for the moment — but I am sure they will come back. You have to remember there will be life again, after the children have grown up. A couple just need to know they have those moments of intimacy which only they share, and which bond them together.
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