Reviewed By Sean Jameson , February 18, If you're new here, you may want to get my discreet newsletter to learn how to make him sexually obsessed with you and only you. Click here to get it. Nothing feels more wonderful than having an orgasm. And whether you are alone or with your man. While this tutorial video is quite distressing, it will teach you how to make your man scream with pleasure and become sexually addicted to you.
Effortless Orgasms If you currently struggle to reach orgasm, then you may want to listen to this podcast where I teach you how to orgasm easily and often. Listen to more Bad Girls Bible podcast episodes here Before teaching you the simple solutions to make it far easier to orgasm, I just want to give you a quick overview of each chapter in case you want to skip straight to a particular topic that you need help with: Masturbation Techniques That Focus On Your Clit — Learning how to orgasm through masturbation is the first step to a life of sexual bliss.
The illustrations demonstrating these clitoral masturbation techniques will show you exactly how to rub, press, flick and stimulate your clitoris to put your body into a state of complete ecstasy.
Read the masturbation techniques chapter here. If you want to give your man back-arching, toe-curling, screaming orgasms that will keep him sexually obsessed with you, then you can learn these sex techniques in my private and discreet newsletter. You'll also learn the 5 dangerous mistakes that will ruin your sex life and relationship. The illustrations and step-by-step guidelines in this chapter will show you exactly what to do to climax from fingering yourself.
Learn the most pleasurable way to finger yourself here. For others, they can find it, but they have no idea what to do to have G Spot orgasms. This guide will show you how. Discover how to find your G Spot here.
However, very few have experienced it. If you want to achieve the orgasmic thrill of female ejaculation, then you may want to check out this detailed, illustrated guide. If you want to learn how to get the most out of your vibrator, then you need to read the vibrator guide.
There is a whole lot more you can do with yours. Check out the clitoral stimulation guide here. If you already find it easy to orgasm during sex and masturbation and just want to learn some new techniques, then my advice is to check out the chapters above that sound most exciting and fun. However if you currently struggle to orgasm, or you want to learn how to make yourself orgasm easily and reliably both alone and with your man, then keep reading.
Your Anatomy The illustrations below indicate all the major parts of your anatomy that you need to pay attention to during sex and when masturbating. Pay particular attention to the most sensitive areas; this includes the clitoris, G Spot, and A Spot.
These three areas are where you will get the most pleasure. Make sure to explore yourself thoroughly when masturbating as some women adore stimulating other areas like your labia or even around your anus. Check it out here to learn how. Doing this alone first is going to be much easier than doing it with your man. So I suggest that you forget about him until you can reliably masturbate to orgasm by yourself. Once you can orgasm easily by yourself, then get your man involved.
One thing I strongly recommend when learning how to orgasm is that you slowly very slowly build up to it. Think of it as foreplay. Start by having a long shower or bubble bath. Make sure to wash everywhere so that you feel fresh and clean. Dry yourself off and then when you are ready, slip into bed and then turn off the light.
So if you would feel sexier wearing lingerie, then wear it. If baggy pajamas are your thing, then put them on. Remember having an orgasm is all about you, so do what makes you feel best. The Actual Orgasm — First spend some time caressing your body with your hands. Try to concentrate on the areas that feel best to have stimulated.
Then when you are ready to bring your pleasure to the next level, lower your hand s towards your vagina. Just above your vagina, is the clitoris, which is the most sensitive spot on the outside of your vagina, is closely linked to arousal [ 2 ] and is a pivotal part of your pleasure [ 3 ].
But at least one study suggests that learning more about the clitoris can help a woman orgasm for the more easily during masturbation [ 5 ] and once you know how to easily orgasm during masturbation, we believe it can become easier during sex. I advise most women to concentrate on this area when they first start figuring out how to orgasm, while also paying some attention to the labia, which are the folds of skin on either side of your vagina on the outside.
Experiment with applying different amounts of pressure to it to see what you enjoy the most. As you do, the pressure and intensity will build and build to a peak until you orgasm. If you are currently struggling to get in the mood for sex, then you may want to read the in-depth guide on how to increase your sex drive. I made having an orgasm seem very simple in the paragraphs above.
For many women, there can be mental obstacles or blocks that can prevent you from fully relaxing and letting go, which makes climaxing and having an orgasm tough, and sometimes impossible. Overcoming these problems will make reaching orgasm much, much easier. Stress — Stress is an obvious one. But a lack of physical and emotional intimacy can lead you to feel stressed the next day , a terrible Catch!
So, sex can actually act as a de-stressing exercise for you and your man, in turn making it easier to orgasm. Stressing About The Outcome — A funny thing happens when you stress out about trying to have an orgasm…studies have shown that getting stressed out about reaching orgasm correlates with difficulty achieving orgasm and makes it take longer too [ 8 ].
In other words, you can end up becoming so anxious and worried about whether you are using the right technique to orgasm that you stop focusing on what feels pleasurable and enjoyable. Solution — Although this sounds counter-intuitive, you need to stop focusing on having an orgasm every time you masturbate or have sex.
Instead, you need to focus on what feels most pleasurable. So experiment with different techniques and positions to see what you enjoy the most. This ultimately makes it much harder to let go and orgasm. Solution — Talk to your man. Let him know what you need to feel comfortable and relaxed during sex. Once you talk to him, you may even find that he feels the same amount of pressure to perform for you. They worry about the size of their penis, maintaining their erection, preventing premature ejaculation, making sure you have a good time, whether or not you like their body and more.
Solution — Giving you advice on how to become more comfortable with your body is difficult, but I can say that once you begin to accept your yourself for who are, you will find yourself becoming less self-conscious and notice that it becomes easier to reach orgasm. This sexual shame can act like a weight on your mind preventing you from fully letting go and orgasming [ 9 ].
Solution — Dealing with sexual shame can be as easy as noticing it when it arises and then consciously telling yourself that the feeling you are having the sexual shame is something that should be ignored.
Not Knowing Your Body — Knowing your body, what it responds to and what feels good is vital to learning how to make yourself orgasm. To learn what your body likes best, you need to experiment and try out new things to see what your body responds to. You may find that nipple stimulation , anal masturbation , being submissive or softly brushing your clit in a certain way quickly brings you to the edge.
If you can overcome the above mental blocks, you will find reaching orgasm to be far, far easier. And there is a bunch of things you can do to enhance your experience. Vibrators There is a massive range of different vibrators that you can use to help bring yourself to orgasm. If you are currently having a lot of trouble reaching orgasm using only your fingers, then you should think about using a vibrator.
Vibrator users have also been shown to have better sexual function than non-users [ 10 ] so keep that in mind if you are on the fence about purchasing one. This in-depth guide on how to use a vibrator for intense orgasms will teach you all the different and very fun techniques you can use with your vibrator to have muscle-spasming, eye-rolling orgasms.
Dildos If you adore penetration, and it helps you get closer to orgasm, then you should definitely consider using a dildo when trying to make yourself orgasm. Just like with vibrators, they come in all shapes and sizes, so you can find one that hits all the right spots.
Whatever they are, you will find it much easier to orgasm if you indulge in them. So if there is an actor or famous person that you adore, try watching a video of him while you masturbate yourself. You can also listen to a recording of him or even a song. If there is a good piece of erotica that gets you going, then have a read of it.
Different people have different fantasies which is totally normal. Try indulging yours while masturbating. This first chapter of the Orgasm Guide will get you started on your journey to having more orgasms alone and with your man.
But what about specific techniques? To learn specific techniques to masturbate with, check out this guide which focuses on your clit and this guide which concentrates on fingering yourself and penetration.
If you want to learn how to orgasm more with your man during sex, then check out this guide on clitoral stimulation during sex and this one on having vaginal orgasms during sex. For easy reference, here are all the chapters to the Orgasm Guide: