Share this article Share You need to really examine your motives here. Is this how you really feel, or just an excuse to go and find a new, younger, thinner woman?
You say she broke down in tears when you suggested a holiday. I think she cried because she knows you feel this way about her. Dom and Steph pictured advise the reader to speak to their GP about visiting a counsellor Men are physically programmed to look elsewhere. If your libidos are not aligned, you may be facing a split that need not happen. I think you should both talk to a trained professional — ask your GP to recommend one — because this needs to be managed carefully.
Tell her you should spend the money on a medical spa trip for her instead, because you love her and really do want to help. Either way, this conversation needs to happen immediately, so be brave — speak your truth and the resolution will become clear. This is terribly awkward, but the first thing to say is that you are very far from alone.
There are many people in this position. It can be rather overplayed. That said, there is clearly an issue in the background. In my experience, weight problems are often emotional problems: You say your wife broke down in tears recently, so she is clearly not happy. You need to help her address her low self-worth.
Tell her just how much you love her. There are times in life when a little white lie is called for and this is one of them.
Remind her that you fell in love with her heart and her mind. Beauty is only skin-deep. There are all sorts of weight-loss programmes out there, but personally, I think writing down everything you eat for a week, then looking back at it would be most effective. The thing is, everyone knows how to lose weight; being able to actually do it is the hard part. She needs a foundation of love and support — everything will follow on from there.
But first, consider the possibility that you may be the root cause. Perhaps, unknowingly, your behaviour may be causing her insecurities. Advertisement Share or comment on this article: