Evidence provided to Congress by state attorneys general and health departments proves that abortion is both extremely safe and highly regulated. As a sexuality educator, I spend most of my time helping parents understand how to talk with their children and teenagers about sex, sexuality, gender, and all of the myriad issues that go along with those things. One question that parents often ask me is how to make sure their teenagers are ready to have sex.
Parents want to make sure that their teenagers are mature enough, have good communication with their partners, understand the health and reproductive consequences, etc.
One parent lamented that she and her daughter had what the mother thought were great conversations about the need for all of these things, but that her daughter went ahead and had sex even though she never had good communication with her partner and ended up having unprotected sex. Was her daughter not listening to her? Pretending to go along and then choosing a different route? While those are possibilities, the more likely problem is that the daughter was not sure how to measure and assess her relationship to make sure that she had reached the goals she enthusiastically agreed with her mother were important.
Just to be clear, these are things to do before you have oral sex, sexual intercourse, or anything else that could get you pregnant or an STD. Yes, before you start having sex, you should give yourself an orgasm. Get the facts, direct to your inbox. Subscribe to our daily or weekly digest. The only way to know this for sure is to be tested! Talk about exactly what STD protection and birth control you will be using.
If you are part of a heterosexual couple, talk about what happens if the woman gets pregnant. Here are a few options to talk about, in alphabetical order: It is often our best friends who can see our lovers and our potential lovers for who they really are.
Listen to what your best friend has to say, and take it to heart. A good relationship will be able to withstand another month before having sex. Then ask a different friend, and see what they have to say. Be comfortable being naked in front of each other. Have condoms on hand. Condoms should be part of any respectful sexual relationship.
There need be no assumption of hook ups outside of the relationship, just an assumption of good sexual habits being made and kept. Make sure that your partner has done all of these things too. Both people need to pay attention to themselves and to their partner. That way each person has two people looking out for them.