Could not subscribe, try again laterInvalid Email 1 Your partner comes home with a bottle of scented massage oil and a cheeky expression.
Pour it all over both of you then have fun sliding around on the bed. Rub it vigorously into his man-bits, ignoring health warnings or the risks of it affecting condom safety. Rub a bit into his shoulders, taking care not to get any on his work shirt. Give him a sensual back massage, which may lead to more.
Head for the nearest woods, and make love under cover of the trees? Head for the nearest lay-by and make love, risking passing motorists catching you? Spend the day catching up on chores, then enjoy a meal followed by slow, loving sex at night? Spend the morning in bed, alternating between sex, talking and cuddling, then spend the afternoon at the cinema?
You put your back out trying a new position last night. You've tried everything already, and are worried it'll become dull. You're a bit tired and would rather cuddle. You've done it a lot lately, and fancy a night off. The wildest selection, everything you ever dreamed of?
A couple of fun toys for him that you've never seen before. White underwear from the sporty range. A racy lingerie set. Perform a striptease, tantalising him with all your hottest moves. Suggest he ties you up and does whatever he wants with you.
Leave him to the telly - if he's not into it, why pester him? Stroke him suggestively for a while, but give up if he's just not interested. Yes, definitely, in the right circumstances. Been there, done that, got the T-shirt. Absolutely no way, under any circumstances. It's a nice fantasy, but it's probably better that it stays that way.
Yes, you've got several vibrators, a naughty nurse's outfit and a tickling stick. Yes, and a webcam, PVC sheets, as well as policeman's handcuffs. No, it would feel ridiculous to be dressing up just to go to bed. You have a vibrator and some sexy undies for bed.
Very important - if it wasn't working, the relationship would definitely be in trouble. Without it you wouldn't know what to do. Not that important - it's friendship and support that truly counts. Fairly important, but you're not overly worried if you go through no-sex phases sometimes. The only danger is letting your quest for new thrills get in the way of intimacy. While diving off the wardrobe or doing it in the park are exciting, there's a place for simple closeness too.
Ask yourself if you're tr ying to prove any thing - perhaps an ex thought you were dull in bed, or you want to show how sexy you are. If so, relax - he won't leave you if you occasionally wear pyjamas and cuddle up. If not, enjoy your wild times but leave space for simply talking and stroking too. He's prepared to experiment, but can calm things down too. But do you enjoy risky extreme sex, or are there issues that it's easier to avoid if you're thrillseeking?
Sometimes on-the-edge behaviour results from lack of selfesteem. You could be put ting yourself and your health in danger. So wise up, and try "ordinar y" sex from time to time to see what you're missing. He's up for most things, but will rein you in when necessary. You panic when edged out of your comfort zone, perhaps because you grew up with fixed ideas about what nice girls don't do.
You find it difficult to relax and try new moves and techniques. It's not wrong - but you could be missing out on a lot of fun. Buy a sex manual, and take it a step at a time with a par tner you trust. It's a shame to miss out for ever. He's not going to scare you, but will lead you into gentle exploration. And while you'll try the odd experiment, you don't mind if it doesn't really work out.
Self-confidence is key to a balanced sex style and you're happy to state your likes and dislikes. Be careful, though, that you don't get stuck in a rut. Just because you know what you like doe sn't mean you should stick with it for ever.
A lit tle adventure now and again can reboot your passion. He'll encourage you to try new ideas but be willing to stick with routine when you're not keen. Like us on Facebook.